Engineer What
Actually Matters

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Welcome to my story, a humble one. It begins with a little kid. Me.

As a child I played competitive chess, practiced taekwondo, and spent years behind a drum kit. What fascinated me most was the quiet beauty of improvement: the more I learned, the more I wanted to learn. Every ounce of effort turned into progress, and each step forward felt like unlocking a secret.

At the chessboard I imagined myself as Hercules facing a two-headed chimera. Win a piece from me, put me under pressure, cut off one head, and I would grow another. I would fight back, always searching for the move that turned the game around. That is how I saw life back then: a challenge where resilience and creativity could always keep you in the game.

Then came the day that changed everything. Deep into my telecommunications degree, I told myself I could learn the entire “Antennas” course in two days. I still remember sitting at my desk, my sister nearby, heart pounding as I stared at the books. Minutes turned into hours, until I finally gave up.

My hands were on the pages, but my mind was a blank wall. I could almost hear the clock, every second heavier than the last, and a voice inside whispering: you are not going to make it this time. I had always pushed through with effort and stubbornness. For the first time, no amount of willpower was enough.

It was more than a failed exam. It was the moment I saw the cracks in how I lived, how I learned, and in the identity I had built around overcoming anything with sheer effort. In that silence, something broke, and my first reinvention began.

I discovered Moonwalking with Einstein and the techniques of Ramón Campayo, the Spanish memory champion, and became obsessed with learning how to learn: memory, speed, focus. Studying felt lighter, smarter. I graduated with ease and carried that fire into a career in computer vision and medical imaging, curiosity, focus, and problem-solving, all alive at once.

For a while, that life fulfilled me. I contributed to science, learned from brilliant colleagues, and solved problems that mattered. But slowly a quiet feeling crept in: I had stability and achievements, yet I was living on autopilot.

The second crisis looked nothing like the first. No exam, no deadline, no one nearby. Just me, after work, in a silent apartment, surrounded by titles and recognition that could not reach the place that ached. This time there was nowhere to run and nothing to study harder. Only the question I had avoided for years:

“Who am I if I stop proving myself to the world?”

That question began my second reinvention. I turned inward, into emotional intelligence, psychology, and life coaching. Carl Jung’s shadow work showed me how much of my life had been steered by parts of myself I had ignored or repressed. And The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck felt like someone had finally handed me a map. Thank you, Martha, I will be forever grateful.

I explored the fears, the stories, and the beliefs my old identity was built on. I let go of the constant need to prove myself and rebuilt my life from the inside out, grounded in authenticity rather than applause. The quiet pain, I finally understood, had simply been the cost of living out of alignment with my true self.

Today, with all the love in my heart, I help others do the same: transform fear, procrastination, and identity confusion into clarity, courage, and purposeful action, until every choice is rooted in love. For themselves, for life, and for what they are creating.